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Do they ever fight?
How often do they have date nights?
Is their communication good?
How are they so cuddly all the time?
Is it an act, or are they always like this?
The Marriage Comparison Trap
But let’s face it, no marriage is perfect. Not even the ones that look like it from time to time.
So why do some marriages look so perfect? Why does it seem like some couples have never had a fight in their life? Or Why does it seem like they wake up each day and never get cross or moody with each other?
While I’m not sure of the answer, I am sure that no one is perfect.
We all have our bad days and no one is exempt from that no matter what we think we may see. But sometimes I am still tempted to compare. I’m tempted to compare my marriage to others and think,
How come we don’t do that?
Why aren’t we more like them?
Is it because we have a baby?
Does that automatically mean we can’t and won’t be romantic anymore?
Of course, I tell myself that none of that is true. All of these questions and more have been proven wrong at one time or another in my marriage. My husband is romantic and there are plenty of nice things we do for each other on a daily basis.
The Good, the Bad, & the Ugly
I’ve come to the conclusion that in every marriage there is good, there is the bad, and there is the ugly.
The ugly is us seeing everything of each other.
Him seeing me when I’m not at my best. Him seeing me when I am sick and grumpy, or when I get up in the morning and have bad breath. The times when he sees me and I can barely get out of bed, let alone put makeup on and do my hair.
But the good in marriage is seeing and knowing about all the bad and ugly things and still loving each other for who you each are. Loving each other no matter what baggage you may have. Staying with each other through thick and thin; through all the ugliness of life. And when at the end of the day you can still say those three simple words, “I Love You.”
THAT is the good and best part of marriage. That is what makes my marriage perfect. Perfect to me.