A Lost Heart

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“The heart of a woman should be so lost in God that a man must be searching for the Lord to find it.”

I used to think that this quote was for those who are single. For those who are searching for the one the Lord has for them to marry. But then a thought occurred to me: Even a wife’s heart should be so lost in the God, that her husband has to be searching for the Lord to find it. Her husband should have to daily go to the Lord, to find and win his wife’s heart.

After we get married, we get so wrapped up in our husbands. We want their attention, we want to be there for them, and we want to show them love and affection. But I think sometimes we get so wrapped up or “lost” in our husbands that we forget about God. He needs to come first, even above our marriage.

To me, it’s a strange thought. Something else coming before my husband? I mean I know God should come first, but do I really put Him first above my husband? Not an easy question to ask! But when I put it into terms with the quote above, I realized how true, and even how better it is to do it that way.

If our husbands have to go to the Lord first to “find” us and our hearts, then our marriage is going to be even better for it! So how do we become so lost in God? I believe that comes when we focus on Him, read His Word, pray every day, and talk to Him like He is our best friend. Instead of wondering what we are going to do, we ask God. Instead of being fearful, we trust. Instead of trying to things on our own, we ask for His help and strength.

When we do these things we become lost in God, in His Word, and in HIS love. When we are lost in God, then we are ready for our husbands to find us. We are ready to be the best wife we can be with God’s help.

When our husbands have to seek the Lord to find our hearts, then their hearts will be lost in God as well. They will be praying, reading His Word, and seeking His face daily. When both hearts are focused on God, then God brings those hearts together. And that is the goal. For your heart to be found. To be brought together in unity under God with your husband’s.

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8

Ask Yourself:
Is your heart lost in God? Is it ready to be found by your husband?

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  1. I have never thought about it in this way! What a challenging thought though. Thanks for sharing =) I like you struggle with loving my husband so much, and I have noticed times where I have placed him on a pedestal he doesn't belong on, that only my Father belongs on. It is such a difficult thing sometimes to love someone so much, but if we transfer that love to our God, then the same amount of love for our husbands, if not more, will naturally spill over. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks so much for commenting Leigh Ann! I wanted to tell you I recently found your blog and have really been enjoying it. I don’t remember if I have commented or not but thought I should let you know, it’s been a blessing! 🙂

  2. I think this would be especially helpful when we are in conflict with our spouses, Kathryn. If we lose ourselves in the love and embrace of our Savior, wouldn’t we be much more gracious and unselfish in those times of conflict–to the point that conflict would transform into surrender? I’m going to try this the next time I’m in an argument with my hubby. It’s not always easy to lay down my pride and “get lost” in my Savior, but I know it will make all the difference! Thanks for this insightful post and for linking it up at Wedded Wed, my friend!

  3. Love this post, Kathryn Yes, it is lost in God and yes it is ready for my husband to find it there. It also sometimes get lost in the haste and worry of life and my husband has to find it there, as well (which is definitely not the place I want his heart to have to search for mine so I work on that regularly).

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