3 Lessons on Marriage I Learned From my Parent’s Divorce
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When I was 15 years old my parents divorced. It was a devastating time in my life and in the life of my family and still affects us even today. While the divorce and the story before and after is a story well-saved for another time, there are three lessons on marriage I learned from this event in my life. These things have affected my marriage for the better and I hope it helps you too!
3 Important Lessons on Marriage:
1. Unmarried Women: Marry the Right Person
I believe that marrying the right person is crucial to a good marriage. Making sure that you are not rushing into marriage, making sure that you are marrying that person for the right reasons, and making sure you are marrying the person God has especially for you; these are all an important part of marrying the right person. (Read all about how I found “the one.”)
I get so many emails from women who ask for advice about their boyfriends or fiances who have cheated on them or treated them terribly and what they should do. They say they don’t want to leave them because they love them. But my first thought is, why would you want to be with someone like that? If they do not treat you right or with respect before you are married then they are certainly not going to do it after you are married.
So what if you are not sure if you married the right person? Is there still hope? Absolutely! God can heal and change lives; people change and pasts can be forgiven. You can still build a strong marriage, you just have to be committed to your relationship. That leads me to my next point: you have to be the right person!
2. Be the Right Person
Being the right person means learning to realize when you are wrong, learning to realize when you are the one who needs to change and realizing that you will always be growing in your personal life and in your marriage – it never stops!
Looking to grow your marriage? Be the right person. Be committed, be strong, and learn that sometimes you may have to put more into it than you may get back. And that’s okay. Being the right person is all about sacrificing and being unselfish toward your spouse.
3. Get Help as Soon as You Need it, Don’t Wait
This is such an important aspect for any marriage. Too many people let pride fill their heart and wait too long to get help. Or maybe they are scared or one spouse is unwilling to get help. No matter what the reason, don’t wait, get help as soon as you need it! You can get help in the form of marriage counseling or even personal counseling if your spouse is unwilling to attend marriage counseling with you.
You don’t even have to wait until your marriage is in trouble, you can make the best of your marriage NOW by occasionally visiting a marriage counselor for tips, going to marriage conferences, reading good resources, books, and blogs on marriage, and more. Don’t wait, put your best foot forward in your marriage today!
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What about YOU? What are some lessons on marriage you have learned along the way?
I’m sorry about your parent’s divorce, but you did learn some valuable lessons. Thanks for sharing them, and I’m sure they will bless others.
Thanks Lisa! I look back and see that there are so many lessons to learn from my parent’s divorce, this is only the tip top of it! God is good!
I also learned through my parent’s divorce that it takes three people in a marriage: You, your spouse, and Jesus. Without Him there to guide you it is easy to fail prey to the enemy. I also think, Jesus’ sacrificial, unconditional love is an example of what our relationship with our spouse should be. Through it all I learned that marriage is so much more than the wedding day. The married couple have an opportunity to show the world through their love to each other just what Jesus’ love looks like. When my husband and I realized that, it took our marriage to a whole other level.
Well, I think you and I were thinking along the same lines today, Kathryn. 🙂 And your points on marrying the right person and being the right person are so true and powerful. It might be too late to marry the right person for some, but you can always be the right person and become a better partner by seeking help through counseling. Very wise advice! And I’m so glad you linked up with Wedded Wed, my friend!
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