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Last year, I stepped out of my comfort zone and wrote a post called: Why Talk About Sex? It was very well received and several ladies told me they would love to guest post about the topic as well. My wonderful friend who I will call “K” wrote this very well studied post on why God created sex. I think it was very well done and I hope you enjoy!
God created sex to be beautiful and binding. He wrote a whole book in the Bible about it, yet Christians avoid the topic at all costs which leaves children to find out about sex from the world. Let’s look at the reasons why God created sex and maybe, Christians will not be so wary to talk about it.
- “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” – Genesis 1: 28
This is kind of one of those “DUH!” moments. Do I really need to explain further?
God ordained marriage before the church and linked marriage with sex. Adam and Eve did not have a church or a pastor to join them together. God Himself joined them together as husband and wife. All throughout Genesis, we can read that God meant for marriage to be binding for life.
- “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” – Genesis 2: 24
In I Corinthians 6: 15-18, it reads that our bodies are members of Christ. Two believers that consummate the marriage are joining the Holy Spirit that resides in each together. Once the Holy Spirit is joined through the two bodies, the marriage is bound further. Each body belongs to the other (I Corinthians 7: 2-5). When one attempts to break the bond of the Holy Spirit through divorce, they are committing adultery (Mark 10: 11-12 and Luke 16:18). God intended sex to be a deep, intimate, cherished act only within the bounds of a God-ordained marriage.
Throughout the Bible, we read of men “knowing” their wife. Sex is meant to be more than just the act of sex. When the Bible talks about Adam making love to Eve, it speaks of him knowing her because it is a private knowledge of your spouse. It is more than just doing. It is declaring
love for one’s spouse. The word most commonly used for sex is intercourse. Just that word alone describes something so much more than just “doing” sex; it is a deep communication and understanding between two people. God created sex so that one could experience deep love and intimacy physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
- “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an helpmeet for him.” – Genesis 2: 18
When two people are joined together, they become each other’s best friend–their confidant. God did not create man to be alone. Two joined in marriage completes the puzzle to God’s plans. One’s spouse knows more details about their life than anyone else. They are the one that spends the most time with them and is the one that is joined with them forever. Knowing that there is someone to love and adore you is one of the greatest pleasures in life. Because one is the closest person to their spouse, they have an opportunity to minister to them on a much deeper level.
4. Physical Pleasure
- “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.” – Song of Solomon 1: 2
God did indeed create sex to be pleasurable for both men AND women. He created us with organs specifically for pleasure. God has already given everything one needs which is much different from what the world says! Women struggle so much with finding their sex drive and even believing that they do not have one. This is a lie–a lie directly from Satan. A substantial problem married couples are having is that they are not having any physical pleasure. Now, physical pleasure is not everything; but it is something very important. Communication is so key in having physical pleasure. After all, if God did not allow us to feel pleasure sexually, no one would want to reproduce!
5. Symbol of the Trinity
- “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it.” – Genesis 1: 27-28a
We see here that the first command God gave to Adam and Eve was to be joined sexually. This mirrors the complete beauty and wonder of the Trinitarian relationship. I am not suggesting that the Trinity have sexual relations. Rather, I am speaking of the union of two bodies within marriage just as the Trinity is a union. The Trinity shows us the truth of love. Each member of the Trinity is completely giving to the others. The Trinity is permanently joined together. Each member of the Godhead is intricately designed to be completely complementary to each other. One cannot completely grasp the fullness until they see each member together as a whole.
Sex is not best when one wants satisfaction of self, but when one is willing to openly give themselves for the benefit of the other. This is the center of Christ’s design of marriage, “…even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” (Ephesians 5: 25). Giving of self sexually is the beginning to giving of self in other areas. Marriage is symbolizing the union believers have in the Father through Christ. The intimate love one has with their spouse is just a small taste of the intimate love they will have when united with the Bridegroom in Heaven.
God’s design for sex is more profound than anyone can imagine. Premarital and extramarital sex disintegrates true intimacy because it suggests that intimacy can be found without love and commitment. This is extremely damaging to the character of God. Waiting until marriage is about the glory of God. One can only become holy when living a life obeying His commands and honoring Him because He will always be faithful in His promises.
- Ephesians 5: 21-33
- I Corinthians 7: 1-17
“K” is an Army National Guard wife. She and her husband reside in Northeast Ohio. “K” suffers from fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis and hopes that with these struggles God will use her life in many ways. She enjoys writing, cooking/baking, watching movies with her Handsome, and playing with her puppy. You can find her on Twitter or Pinterest and or on her blog: Faith Full Marriage.