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It has been so long since I have had time to post in my blog (besides the Father’s Day post) and I miss it! Since my post about the money we received so we could go visit family (Blessings in Surprise) I have been crazy busy preparing to leave, getting Adam’s party set up, dealing with Adam’s appointments and surgery, cleaning and preparing for family to come, and more! Now that I am up in the mountains of West Virginia helping out my in-law’s and relaxing, I have had more time to gather up my thoughts, and now need a place to put them: here.
On June 15th, the day before my husband’s family would arrive, and two days before mine would arrive, Jon came home for lunch and told me he got deployment orders. Just like that. I am not sure what I expected, but even though it was expected that he would go this year, I was still surprised when he told me. For the past three years I have grown complacent and happy with our military life. It will be three years next July that Jon has been in the United States Air Force and has never deployed. There are reasons for that, and I am grateful. So grateful that I could not be upset when I heard the news. I had known it was coming. However, even then I had felt sick to my stomach when he told me. It really does hit you like a ton of bricks.
So with party plans being made, and family on it’s way in a matter of hours, I had to learn to push it out of my mind and not let the news ruin my time with family or at Adam’s party. Now that things are quiet again, I can’t stop thinking about what I want to do while he is away. We had always planned that I would go and stay with his family for at least half of the deployment. But in doing that there is so much do think about. Expenses, length of time, and the pros and cons of being away from home and living with family for a long period of time.
I know there is always the possibility of the deployment being cancelled, as sometimes that can happen. But I like to plan ahead. I figure if I buy tickets now, they will be cheaper then if I wait until the last minute. But what I’m struggling with right now is how long to stay with family, and who to stay with and when. I wrote out some pros and cons of some of my thoughts on the matter.
- Get family support.
- Get to be with family we don’t see a lot.
- Adam will get to know his grandparents and other family.
- I will get to help with the house. (Husband’s parents are fixing up their new house)
- I will get to help with the wedding. (Sister-in-law is getting married)
- No military support or base. (No AF bases in West Virginia)
- Miss my church and friends. (My in-laws go to a very small church here in WV)
- Adam will have no kids his age to play with.
- No cell phone service at the house. (In WV)
- Not much privacy.
- Not much to do here. (In WV)
Why I want to go:
- Don’t want to be alone for the entire time.
So those are some of my thoughts. Of course when I go to visit my family in Florida it will be a little different. More to do there, and I have several friends there too, since I used to live there. What about you? What kinds of things do you do while your husband is deployed? Do you visit family? How do you make it fair for both sides of the family?
This is post 1# in my “Deployment One“ series. I will be writing about our journey through our first deployment, my thoughts, tips, and other things as well. All posts will be listed under keyword “Deployment One.”