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The past few weeks have been rough. Deployment is closing in and with it all the things that have to be done before and all the things happening after are overwhelming me. It’s starting to hit hard that this is really happening and I need to get myself in gear.
As time is ticking away, time together has been sparse. It seems that for the past month one of us has always been sick. There were colds all around, and my husband got pretty sick from his pre-deployment shots, and then I had the stomach flu twice. On top of all that, my husband is doing an online class for his degree so a lot of his time at home is being taken up with that. I am so proud that he is working so hard on it, but I wish it didn’t have to be right before he leaves. Any time together is precious, and we are learning to make the most of it.
My during-deployment plans are coming together. There is a lot going on and I am glad for that, but I am also overwhelmed with all that I know is coming up. Adam will be going to weekly therapy sessions (that’s a post for another day) and I am not looking forward to dealing with all that comes with that by myself. I know it’s going to be a lot of pressure and and a lot of work.
I also made some decisions about staying with and visiting family. I did a post about that awhile back, and I have had several people ask what decision I made. My sister-in-law is getting married and I am a bridesmaid. I am going to be staying about a month in West Virginia with my in-law’s to help with the wedding. Before that, my mom will be coming for a weekend to spend Thanksgiving with us. In February or March I am hoping one of my friends from Florida might come up to stay and visit. Then we will both drive back down to Florida and Adam and I will stay with my mom for about a week. Lots of decisions, lots of travel, lots to think about!
This is most of what has been on my mind lately. On top of everything the finance department messed up and we only got half a paycheck. We will get it back… in two weeks. Needless to say it’s been a struggle not to be discouraged. So what do I do and how can YOU handle pre-deployment stress? Here are a few things that have helped me:
I will be honest there are times that I just don’t feel like praying. I feel stressed, overwhelmed and certainly not in the mood to pray. But why wait? Isn’t that a good time to bring it all to God? I think so!
2. Don’t let it build up
This is one I am learning, learning, learning! Letting your feelings and emotions build up inside of you just makes things worse because at one time or another all those thoughts and feelings are going to have to come out, and it’s probably not going to be pretty. Which leads us to number 3, before those feelings build up, talk to someone about them!
3. Talk to Someone
I know that in the military community it is a known thing not to put a lot on your husband before or during a deployment. They have to focus on the mission. BUT I believe that is not always right. Keeping everything in is not good, and talking things over with your husband is good stress reliever for both of you. You can also talk to a pastor or counselor if you are having trouble handling things. Sometimes just having someone to vent to, bounce ideas off of, or pray for you is just what you need to feel better.
What do you do or what have you done in the past to deal with pre-deploment stress or any stress at all?