No More Drama: Standing up as a Woman Should
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All my life I have been quiet, shy, and laid back especially when I was younger. I never knew how to stand up to people, say no, or speak up for myself. I let people run all over me, bully me, use me, and stomp on me. Well no more. I am tired of the drama and tired of the cliques. I am tired of standing back, and being quiet for the sake of trying to be nice. I am tired of letting people push me into things I don’t want to do. I am tired of worrying about what other people will think of me and tired of trying to please everyone.
Being a Christian does not mean, we have to let people walk all over us. The Bible does not say we cannot stand up for ourselves. I am not a weak person, I am a strong woman of God, and I need to walk that way. I need to live my life that way. The time has come to change. God has called us to walk boldly for Him. No more cowering in fear. We can make a difference if we step out in faith and let Him use us.
If you agree with me take the pledge:
I Pledge to…
Say NO to drama.
From now on, I will take stand. I will not let you put me down. I will not back down and I will not be afraid. I will live my life how I want to live it and not according to how you think I should live it. I will live my life according to God’s Word and not your word. I will do what I think is right for me and my family because I do not have to answer to you. I will no longer do things to make others happy, but I will do things that make me happy.
I will no longer listen to friends and people who are mean to me, rude to me, or treat me unkindly. Because if those people were my true friends they would not stomp on me, they would not treat me unkindly. They would love me for who I am, they would take me blemish or no, And if they saw something in my life that they felt was wrong or needed to be fixed, they would come to me in love, kindness and in gentleness and show help me and show me how to change. They would not judge me.
Gone is the fear because today I will say no. Because I am an adult. I am an adult who knows how to have self-control. I am an adult who knows when enough is enough. And I am Adult enough to say I am not going to let this bother me. Adult enough to say this does not need to go on anymore. I am going to love ME for who I am and who God created me to be. I am going to love the person that I am no matter what others may say or think of me. I will stand up and not back down for those that are also like me and I will defend those who do not have anyone defending them.
These does not mean I want to start fights. It does not mean I am being selfish. It does not mean I do not need to change things in my life that may need to be changed or fixed. It means I have to know who I am. I have to live my life free of other’s judgment and their view. I am not perfect in any way, but I am a beautiful work in progress. I will not be afraid, I will not back down, I will say no to drama.
Your post hit home for me as I also have dealt with this. I stand back and let people walk over me. I had to make the decision as well to just say "no".
I have the overwhelming urge to ask you to guest post on my blog something similar to this đ
You go girl!!! I am always encouraged by your blog đ
I never see or hear of anyone not being kind to you so I'm not sure what the reason for this post is. I'm just saying, you seem to be playing the "wounded, misunderstood" person when I don't feel there is a reason for it.
Good for you! Learning to say no can be really hard and it takes practice (literally – it wouldn't hurt to get someone you love and trust to practice with you). đ
It reminds me a little bit of Martha and Mary and knowing when to be which one. đ
What a beautiful message! Thank you for sharing this… I will continue to share your pledge with everyone I know. Be strong and courageous, girl!
Anonymous, it's so easy to bully when you don't sign your name.
I agree with Connie. And Annie đ
Dear Anonymous,
The reason I wrote this post was because of people like you. Thank you for commenting and helping me prove my point.
I love this post!
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Very encouraging post!
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Kathryn,
WOW! This is amazing, and I know a lot of women out there, including myself can relate to this. Your wording is awesome! The pledge is also a beautiful thing…I should put a frame around it and put it on my wall…lol.
As for anonymous, wow, that's pretty sad that someone would take time out of their day to write something like that. Go, Kathryn, that was a terrific comeback…you were assertive, and you proved that you're dedicated to this commitment.
It really spoke to me, and I'm sure it will to many others who read this as well. : )
The point of this post is NOT because she's wounded and misunderstood, but because she's making the stand to not let people try and make her feel wounded and misunderstood!
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love this post! sometimes i swear i'll always be trying to live up to this credo – it's tough not to let others' negativity get us down, but life's too short to worry about haters. you have a great outlook on it!
Man, we sound so alike sometimes! I've been working on this too. I've often been second so many times and used to letting other people do whatever and squelching who I was just to try to keep people happy or keep friends. So, with you on your post! đ
i just had a wake up call a few weeks ago from people very close to me who decided to go "mean girl" on me, and you know what? i finally stood up for myself. i am who i am, i'm not perfect, but i'm not bad in any way and i vow to do things that are fun for me, not be ashamed of who i am and being confidant and strong only shows that we love God and he is buoying us up!!
love the post!
hillary
did you read "No More Christian Nice Girl"??? this sounds just like it!!! so proud of you!
btw, what is up with Mr. or Mrs. Anonymous' post up there??? for real, dude or dudette, maybe you don't know things Kathryn has been through as well as you think you do! geesh…
Awesome! Needed this. Rock on girly đ
Kathryn, I am so glad to know I am not the only one who goes through this! When I became pregnant I decided the very same thing. I am not letting people walk all over me or treat me unkind, rude or disrespectful. Thank you for writing this.
To Anonymous: Have enough guts to sign your name…..Kathryn had enough guts to post this message…..You obviously do not know her well enough to know what she deals with on a day to day basis.
Good post! Learning to say no is hard, but there comes a time when enough is enough.