Life is a Battle
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So many times this past week I have wanted to sit down and write. I wanted to sit down and write an amazing post about how through these trials my faith in God has increased, or how my trust in Him as grown stronger. I wanted to sit down and write a post to encourage others, but no words came.
I listen as friends tell me they don’t know how I do it, or that they wouldn’t blame me if I were angry at God. And it’s true. The anger has really never left, it just ebbs and flows through trials I go through in life. Anger at my parent’s divorce, anger at my miscarriage, anger that God would allow my son to struggle through life with four different diagnoses, and now anger at watching what is happening to my daughter.
God, when is it enough? When will you agree that it’s too much?
After the tests at the children’s hospital, we have been to a pediatric pulmonologist and now a pediatric ENT. They both say the same thing: the swallowing difficulties and aspiration could be due to severe damage from reflux OR it could be a laryngeal cleft.
“A laryngeal cleft is a rare congenital abnormality in the posterior laryngo-tracheal wall. It occurs in approximately 1 in 10,000 to 20,000 births. It means there is a gap between the oesophagus and trachea, which allows food or fluid to pass into the airway.” – Wikipedia
Our next step is to get an endoscopy done (my son also had this procedure done a few years ago). This where they would do a procedure with a camera down her throat in a tube that would show them what is going on. They are talking surgery if it is indeed damage from the reflux and the reflux can’t be controlled. If for some reason the endoscopy doesn’t show anything, the next step would be an MRI of the brain to see if this could be a neurological disorder. They are also talking feeding tubes if she doesn’t gain enough weight and/or the reflux can’t be kept under control.
Right now she is gaining enough weight to stay just above the “failure to thrive line.” She is eating which is good, just not eating enough. We have tried multiple medicines and multiple formulas and I have logged and logged every feeding, every aspiration and choking episode.
We are exhausted. We are tired, and we are done. For weeks I have had to choose between my special needs son’s most important needs and now my special needs daughter’s most important needs. I have had to choose appointments and family time over cleaning the house, and eating out over the exhaustion of making meals (not that I have had time to do that either…).
I read a post the other day entitled, “When Satan Steals Your Motherhood.” The post talked about how the mother let Satan into her home when she got angry, or when she was fearful, or any other number of things that happen daily in the home. She said, “Satan wants you to fail. And to feel alone. And to feel inadequate to what Someone Else has CALLED you to do.”
“… just rest at the feet of Jesus for a moment.”
“Today? It is going to be okay. Take back your motherhood. It is a gift. Listen to the life-giver, NOT the liar.”
And as I thought about those words I realized, Satan doesn’t just want to steal your motherhood, he wants to steal your marriage. He wants to steal your family. He wants to steal your life away. He wants to steal your faith away from the only One who can fight for you.
As I look back over the last few months and think of all the stress. The times I was frustrated with my son because I was oh-so-tired, and the times my husband and I barely wanted to speak to each other because we both were so stressed and had no idea how to handle things. These are the ways Satan steals us away. Slowly, until there is nothing left except the skeletal remains of the faith and trust we once had.
Life is a battle. But we MUST keep on fighting. Keep fighting to have hope. Keep fighting to have trust in the One who knows all. Keep fighting to have faith in the only One who will never fail you.
“Be not afraid nor dismayed…for the battle is not yours, but God’s.” – II Chronicles 20:15
I ask you: where is your battle? In your marriage? Your business or job? Your finances? Your health? Does your battle get more intense day after day? If you have a heart for Jesus and a desire to cleave to him, you will face the rage of hell. But that is still not your battle.
You can end your battle quickly if you choose – simply by quitting and giving in to your fears and doubts. Satan will not bother those who give up their confidence in the Lord.
Yes, the battle is the Lord’s, but we have a part – and that is to trust and believe his promises in the face of hopelessness and what seem to be impossibilities.
Faith demands that I turn over all my problems – all my critical situations, all my fears, all my anxieties – into the hand of the Lord. When I have done all I can do, and I know my battle is beyond my power, I must submit all into his hands.
Our Lord knows the raging of Satan, and we must truly believe he will act. He will bring us through floods and fires and put to chase all spiritual enemies.
If you will hold fast to your faith – trusting him, resting in his promises, rejecting all lies of Satan coming into your mind – then expect God to come by his Spirit into your situation and bring an expected end to your particular battle. He will move heaven and earth to deliver you and make a way. The way out is to trust, trust, trust! ‘He makes wars to cease’ (Psalm 46:9).” – DavidWilkersonToday.com
Photo used with permission: Kayla’s Simple Photography.
Kathryn, I’m so sorry that life is very difficult right now. I’ve been in your shoes and I know how hard it can be! I know the many days that I was trying to stop my labor and then I didn’t get my choice of it continuing and the ultimate c-section. I do not believe Im 100% healed but I do try my best and try to keep it collected. I practice ways of self healing with photography. It helps me to see my pain and my frustration. Try to stay strong!
From one ‘special’ mom to another … keep holding on! I’ve been there and I know those desperate times. God will never let go of you – even when you feel grasp loosening. I know how you feel. <3 These dark times will make the good times even sweeter.
Oh Kathryn, I’m so sorry you have to go through all of this, all at once. I loved your insight that not only does Satan want to steal your motherhood, he wants to steal everything else too. You’re still in my prayers! Little by little I have faith things will improve.
I’m so sorry you’re going through so much. Keeping your whole family in my prayers.
SO sorry you are going through all of this. You have been such a calm for me during my husband’s deployment. I wish only the best for you and your family. I know that when I’m exhausted I have a hard time seeing that things will get better. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto your own understanding. I know that quote helped me a lot when I couldn’t make sense out of my life and feared the worst. Things managed to work out – but only when I put them in God’s hands.
Kathryn, I am so sorry you are having to go through all this. Those burdens just seem so heavy, and my heart truly goes out to you. I struggled with anger towards God after my 2nd miscarriage…so hard to understand His ways. I truly admire your faith and tenacity, your ability to hold onto God in a fight like this.. Your courage is truly blessing others, and I will pray that you get a reprieve very soon. I am glad you are in my SITS comment love tribe. I’ve followed your blog for a while, and I’m glad I got to connect with you again. Love and prayers, friend.
Wow. What a powerful post. Thank you for being so honest and yet in the end you were so positive and encouraging. It sounds like you have a handle on Satan. You have more than your fair share of challenges. I’m glad you also can find peace and strength in your life. Thank you for uplifting and encouraging others inspire of your trials. Wishing you happy days! #sitsgirls