What a Friend…
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Lately, I have been thinking a lot about friendship. Ever since I was a little girl, I have had problems making friends. I have known a lot of people over the years, but when I stop to think about it, how many of these people can I actually call real friends? Even in college, I would make friends only to realize that I was the only one making the effort.
When I stopped asking people to hang out or do something with me, no one really cared, they went on with their own life, like we never even had a friendship. I still have people that I hang out with and call friends, but I know that when I move again, I will have to start all over, and that most of these people I will never hear from again. It used to bother me, it bothered me a lot. It has been hanging over me my whole life, why do people not like me? I try to be a good friend, but it never seems to mean anything to the people I am friends with.
Two years ago, I came to a conclusion. I was at college and I had just lost a friend of mine, because we had had a fight about some things. That summer, I agonized as to why this was happening. I cried and cried because I was so sad to keep losing friends. But God really showed me something that summer. That I do not need friends to live a happy life serving him. He was all I needed. God showed me that he good be the best friend any girl could ever ask for. He is there 24/7 and is willing to listen to any problem we have. I was amazed… I had heard that God was my friend, but it was like something really awakened in me. My whole life I had been depending on friends, thinking that if I did not have many or any at all, I was nothing. I had been leaning on them instead of God!
I am not perfect, I still sometimes wish I could find that “best friend” that most people have. But I always have God and I know that He is all I need to get me through. He is the friend I can lean on at any time.
“What a friend we have in Jesus,
All our sins and griefs to bear!
What a privilege to carry
Everything to God in prayer!
Oh, what peace we often forfeit,
Oh, what needless pain we bear,
All because we do not carry Everything to God in prayer!”
God has so many things to show us, we just have to open our eyes, and let Him show us the truth…
I've pretty well had the same problem (for the most part), especially at my second High School. To tell you the absolute truth I feel closer to people from my High School now, because of Facebook. Weird, right?
Either way, I know exactly how you feel. I'm glad to hear that you are able to lean and rely on God as you had with your friends in the past. He never ceases to amaze me with His plans and the way He teaches us. Because when it's all over and done I wouldn't say that I'd do anything different; everything that happened was just right in teaching me His plans and showing me His love.
As soon as I read the title of this post, I began singing the song.
I must remind you that I came looking for you before you knew I existed (LOL).
Oh dear, you should not look at this as why-do-people-not-like-me.. it's just the way people are… and sadly it happens even in between believers as well.. i tell you from experience.. I used to be a youth leader in my home church and I've always had a great passion for doing that.. but when we had to move to Germany.. nobody even knew i existed anymore.. it's a little sad but hey that's how it is… this is all about being a grown up.. knowing how to deal with this kind of things and not let them affect you that much… and yes God is the best friend one can have… it cannot be compared with any human friend.. it's much more than just that!
Hope you'll get more cheered up tough'! Have a blessed Wednesday!
Finding a good friend is like finding a treasure chest.
It is especially difficult finding and keeping good friends as a military spouse. The constant moves can wreak havoc on friendships.
Pray that God will send you a good friend that you can connect with. He can do it!
By the way, I love that song too!
I think God has a way of telling us so sweetly that He is more that enough. Whether it be in the friendship line or any other one God uses these situations to speak about His complete and beautiful ways. I am glad that you used the season of "without frineds" to see His message. Your writing validates things for me.