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Being a military spouse for almost eight years now, I have heard it all when it comes to reasons for or against befriending a military spouse. Many people tend to stay away from befriending military spouses based on things they have heard or what little they think they know about military spouses.
Some of the reasons I have heard are things like:
- Military spouses have too much drama in their lives.
- Military friendships require too much work.
- Military spouses move too many times and it’s hard to get close only to have them move away.
Sure, military spouse friendships may require more work and yes, it is hard when we move around a lot, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be friends with us! Here are two reasons I believe you should get to know and befriend a military spouse no matter how short their time at their duty station may be.
Before Befriending a Military Spouse, Ask Yourself…
1. What can I learn from them?
Military spouses have had to learn some tough lessons. Many of travelled and lived in various parts of the world, many of lived most of their lives away from their hometown, their family, and their friends, and many have learned how to be self-reliant and resilient due to deployments.
So ask yourself, what can this military spouse teach you? What lessons could you learn from them? Whether you only get to know them for a few weeks or months or even a few years, you may be surprised at how they will touch your life and you may end up with a long-term friendship even if it is long-distance!
2. What can they learn from me?
Just because you aren’t a military spouse doesn’t mean that you haven’t learned a thing or two. What lessons have you had to learn or what things have you gone through that could help another military spouse out?
Whether it’s supporting them through something you’ve been through too, bringing over a meal, or offering a hug, you may be surprised at how you could touch their lives in a special way and end up with a lasting friendship.
So next time you think there is no point in befriending a military spouse, ask yourself these two questions. I think you will find that there are plenty of reasons to befriending or getting to know a military spouse no matter how short the time is. God brings us people in our lives for reason, so make sure you make the most of it!
What about YOU? Do you like befriending military spouses? Have you ever chose not to befriend a military spouse for specific reason?