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Yup, you read the title and that’s right. Although it has become increasingly popular to be a “crunchy” mom, I am just not that person. I vaccinate my kids, I don’t attachment parent, I don’t cloth diaper, I don’t co-sleep with my kids, I am not into baby wearing, and I don’t eat organic food.
Do I believe any of the above things are wrong? No, it’s more that I don’t believe that they are right for my family, and I chose a different way of parenting than the modern, mainstream mother. According to this article I am what is referred to as “silky”:
“A mother who prefers medicated hospital birth, bottle feeding/part time breastfeeding, uses rice cereals, disposable diapers, crib sleeping, is pro-circumcising, pro-vaccinating, mostly stroller using and one who closely follows the advice of established medical authority. Silky moms often tend to be moms who use sleep training methods like “CIO” (cry it out) & rely on modern products for convenience.”
That’s pretty much me in a nutshell. And while I have lots of friends who are crunchy and I love them dearly, it is becoming increasingly hard for me to post about things that are important to me because so many crunchy moms are either against them or they just don’t understand. I have very few friends I can call up and ask for advice, not because I don’t trust them, but because our methods are so different I doubt we would ever agree.
Yes, I put my kids to sleep in their cribs, and yes I use a stroller to push them around in, and no I don’t make my own baby food, but I love my kids so much and to me that’s all that matters. Just because I don’t wear my baby all the time, or serve organic food to my family doesn’t mean I don’t care or don’t love them. It just means I found a balance that works for me and my family.
So next time you see a mom who chooses to vaccinate or who chooses not to baby wear or doesn’t make her own food. Don’t judge. Get to know her and find out why she chooses not to do these things. It just might be that she might have a thing or two you can learn from too!