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In an attempt to be positive, I came up with several things that I am really going to enjoy doing while my husband is away. Even though separation is not something we look forward to, I think that it can be a time to find ourselves, learn to be strong, and in the end bring us closer together. “Distance does to love what wind does to fire… it extinguishes the weak and fuels the strong.
My Reasons to Enjoy this TDY:
1. I get to pick and watch all the Netflix movies I want.
We don’t have cable but we do have Netflix including instant plays. Since Jon is leaving I already moved up all the movies I want to watch in the next month. And let me tell you it is a long list of chick flicks! Included in the list are “First Daughter,” “My Fair Lady,” “Gone with the Wind,” “Save the Last Dance,” and “Rebbecca.” Can you tell I am excited?
2. I can buy and eat foods that I like.
I am very excited about the grocery shopping experience while he is away, first because it will probably save us a lot of money just buying food for one and second because I get to buy all kinds of things that Jon wouldn’t normally eat! My husband can be a very picky eater at times, and there are lots of foods I don’t buy because I know he doesn’t like them. Well not anymore! A few on my list are yummy snacks, cheese, black olives, and lots of healthy stuff that Jon normally hates like spinach, zucchini, and kale. And that’s just a few on my list!
3. I get to sleep in the middle of the bed and hog the blankets!
I am one of the those people who is a very restless sleeper, and apparently I need a lot of room. I don’t get that in a Queen size bed shared with my husband. We often wake up in the night asking the other to move over. Now, I can sleep in the middle and have the entire bed to myself. Of course I do not really want to sleep alone, but this is a good thing about it since I don’t have a choice.
4. I get the car all to myself (and Adam of course).
Recently, we were knocked down to one car. My husband now takes the car to work every day and occasionally if I have a doctor’s appointment or something he will try to find a ride to work. Most of the time I am stuck at home, but no now. I have missed going out and running errands, and hanging with friends. I have already made plans with several people and I am looking forward to them!
5. I get t try and finish some goals I have set.
Since I have known about this TDY I have been setting some goals in my head of things I wanted to accomplish and get done while he was gone. One of these is to exercise and lose some more weight. I was doing really good and then I had a hard time getting motivated to do this again. I want to, but I just haven’t been putting the work into it. And now I will have time. I think it will also be a good stress reliever. I also want to get my house organized. I have already been through a few things I want to get rid of or sell, but there is a lot that just needs to be organized and cleaned out. I guess you can call it spring cleaning. I would love to surprise my husband by getting the house ready by the time he gets back. We’ll see how that goes…
What about you? What are some things you do or look forward to when your husband is away?
I know that to some people this might seem silly. A month is not a long time to some, but to me it is a lot. I have endured separations before, but this is my first doing it alone without family. I know this is only a test of what is to come later as deployments last much longer. I hope that this can help me become more prepared. Thank you to all the friends who have already been there for me and not made me feel stupid about being sad about this separation. I was really surprised by all the support.