3 Ways to Support and Encourage Your Husband
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This week my husband is once again stressed about his CDCs. I’m not sure exactly what “CDC” stands for, but it is a series of tests he has to take on all kinds of stuff for the Air Force. He has a certain amount of time to study for them and then he has to take a test that covers his knowledge.
The books he has to study are huge! There are a lot of random things that he just “needs to know” for no apparent reason, and I know that he sees them as something totally pointless. He has not been motivated very much to study for them and now he is stressed because he just wants them to be done. He is very smart but has a hard time finding a good way to study that works for him.
The question I’ve been asking myself is, how do I help motivate him without nagging him? I have offered to study with him, quiz him, and write out flashcards for him, but nothing seems to work. However, I did think of some non-tangible ways to encourage him through this rough time.
How to Support and Encourage Your Husband
1. Being there no matter what, even if he pushes you away. Saying, “I am here for you, and you are going to do great!” It doesn’t matter what the subject matter is, if your husband knows you are there for him, it will always make him feel safe.
2. Telling him that no matter the outcome, or no matter what happens you will always love him. He needs to know that your love is there through the good and the bad times. Knowing that you are not going anywhere helps him feel secure in your love.
3. Pray for him! The power of prayer is strong and sometimes that is the only thing left to do in certain situations. In Stormie Omartian’s book, The Power of a Praying Wifenofollow she writes, “A wife’s prayers for her husband have a far greater effect on him than anyone else’s…” I highly recommend this book, if you want to learn how to pray for your husband!
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” – Proverbs 31:10-12
So my question to you is: what are some ways that you motivate, support, love and encourage YOUR husband?
Very good topic! My husband is in school now. When he gets home from a long, tiring day of work, he spends time with us and then hits the books. He usually doesn't get to bed until 11-12. When I ask what I can do to make life easier for him he says to hug him everyday and tell him that I love him. (So easy to please!) I think that knowing that we are here is his encouragement.
Our son is 11 months tomorrow. I do monthly updates on him, so feel free to stop back by tomorrow and check out what all he has been up to this past month. I take pics like crazy and update my blog almost daily. All of my family is in AL. They miss us terribly and my blog helps console them in between visits. Love your book review on Wholehearted Marriage. I was interested to hear someone's opinion on that one. Sounds like a goodie. My husband and I are doing Night Life by Dr. James and Shirley Dobson. We love it, but it's a quick night devotional. We need to do something more in depth.
My husband just went through studying for his CDCs (it stands for Career Development Course). Does you hubby have time to study them at work?
I know that mine never brought the work home because he works such long days and didn't want to take time away from our time together. He said it also helped him focus because he knew at work it was study time and at once he got home he could just relax and not be stressed about it. He recently passed with a 95 and earned 3 days off!
When he was in another training class he did have nightly homework and the best thing I could do for him was to sit with him while he did it. Not necessarily just sitting doing nothing, but he would study and I would read or do my crafty stuff or be working on editing pictures. It was quiet but we were together and he said it kept him going and he didn't feel like he was missing out on part of my life because he was right there (and I was perfectly content to do those things).
Looking forward to reading your blog! I'm not on MIG much anymore and I don't post frequently on xanga either. I have a zillion blogs and need to get using them again!
You hit it on the nail…Pray for him. Studying for tests like that can be very overwhelming. When my husband was studying for his tests, I would quiz him. I had no clue what I was reading or saying, but I did it anyway. I ended up learning some things in the process.
Like Cat mentioned, sometimes their supervisors will let them get time off work or during work to study.
Just be there for him and everything will work out fine.